Aaj ke daur mein “self-love” ek buzzword ban chuka hai. Har jagah log kehte hain: “Love yourself first!” Lekin jab ye self-love had se badh jaata hai, to woh narcissism ban jaata hai — ek aisi soch jisme insan sirf apne aap ko sabse upar samajhta hai.
Islam ek behtareen balance sikhata hai — apne aap se mohabbat karo, lekin ghamand aur nafs ke jaal mein mat phanso.
Is maqale mein hum dekhenge ke Islam ke zariye self-love aur narcissism ke darmiyan ek sehatmand raasta kaise ikhtiyar kiya ja sakta hai — Quran aur Sunnah ki roshni mein.
Self-Love aur Narcissism – Do Mukhtalif Sochain
Self-Love (Khud se Mohabbat) kya hai?
Self-love ka matlab hai apni qeemat samajhna, apni kamzori aur taqat dono ko pehchanna, aur apne aap ko izzat dena. Islam is self-awareness ko encourage karta hai, kyunke Allah Ta’ala ne har insan ko ek khaas maqsad ke liye paida kiya hai.
Yehi asal imaan ki sifat (emaan ki sifaat) hai — apne nafs ko samajhna aur uski islaah karna. Self-love ka matlab ye nahi ke insan apni khudgarzi mein kho jaaye, balki ye ke woh apni rooh ko paak kare aur apne Rabb ke qareeb aaye.
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Narcissism (Ghamand aur Khud Parasti)
Narcissism ek extreme soch hai jahan insan apne aap mein itna magan ho jaata hai ke usay doosron ke huqooq aur feelings ki parwah nahi rehti. Islam me ise kibr (takabbur) kaha gaya hai — jo gunah-e-kabeera hai.
Quraan me Allah farmata hai:
“Allah un logon ko pasand nahi karta jo takabbur karte hain.”
(Surah An-Nahl 16:23)
Rasoolullah ﷺ ne farmaya:
“Jis ke dil mein zarra barabar ghamand hoga, woh Jannat mein nahi jaayega.”
(Muslim)
Yani Islam humein sikhaata hai ke khud se mohabbat karo, lekin apne nafs par fakhar nahi.
Islam ka Nazariya – Balance aur Barakah
Islam dono extremes ke darmiyan ek moderate raasta sikhata hai. Na apni be-qadri karo, na apni worship.
Self-love tab ibadat ban jaati hai jab woh Allah ki raza ke liye ho — jaise apni sehat ka khayal rakhna, ilm hasil karna, ya akhlaq behtar banana.
Tafseer ul Quran aur dalailul khairat jaisi kitaabein yehi batati hain ke khud se mohabbat ka asal matlab hai apni roohani halat behtar karna.
Quraan aur Sunnah mein Self-Love ka Tareeqa
Nafs aur Tazkiyah ka Concept
Quraan me Allah farmata hai:
“Qad aflaha man zakkaha, wa qad khaaba man dassaha.”
(Surah Ash-Shams 91:9-10)
“Kamyab hai woh shakhs jisne apne nafs ko paak kiya, aur nakaam hua jisne use ganda kiya.”
Yehi self-love ka asal matlab hai — apne nafs ki pehchaan aur uski islaah. Jab banda apni kamzoriyon ko accept karke Allah se behtari ki dua karta hai, to uski zindagi me barakah aati hai.
Khud Se Mohabbat aur Allah ki Mohabbat
Jab insan Allah se mohabbat karta hai, to woh apne aap se bhi izzat se pesh aata hai.
Islam sikhata hai ke zindagi ka centre Allah ho — na ke sirf apna ego.
Yehi imaan ki sifat hai: apni mohabbat ko Rab ki mohabbat ke neeche rakhna.
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Sunnah ke Zariye Balance Seekhna
Nabi ﷺ ki zindagi perfect balance ka misaal hai. Aap ﷺ apni zarurat ka khayal rakhte the, lekin kabhi apne ego ke liye nahi jeete.
Aap ﷺ ne farmaya:
“Tumhara badan bhi tum par haq rakhta hai, tumhari aankhein bhi, aur tumhara Rabb bhi.”
Yani self-care aur ibadat dono zaroori hain — farq sirf niyyat ka hai.
Jab Self-Love Bari Ho Jaaye – Narcissism ke Nuksaanaat
Nafrat aur Tanhaai
Jab insan apne aap ko itna chaahta hai ke doosron ke emotions ignore kar de, to woh tanha ho jaata hai.
Narcissism insaan ko society se door karta hai, aur uske andar se empathy khatam kar deta hai.
Ruhani Khaali Pan
Narcissism me insan apne maqsad-e-hayaat se door ho jaata hai.
Jab banda sirf apne ego ke peeche bhaagta hai, to woh Allah ki raza se door ho jaata hai.
Quraan humein warn karta hai ke jo apne nafs par control nahi rakhta, woh khud apna dushman ban jaata hai.
Islaahi Rasta
Islam kehta hai ke nafs ko maaro nahi, saaf karo.
Zikr, istighfar aur self-accountability se insan apne dil ko saaf karta hai.
Jab self-love ibadat ban jaaye, to narcissism khatam ho jaata hai — aur insaan apne Rabb ke qareeb aa jaata hai.
Islam Mein Khud Ko Samajhne ka Tareeqa
Apni Pehchaan aur Niyat
Islam kehta hai:
“Man ‘arafa nafsahu faqad ‘arafa rabbahu.”
“Jisne apne aap ko pehchana, usne apne Rab ko pehchana.”
Khud ko samajhna ek roohani safar hai. Niyat aur iradey ka muhasabah karna self-awareness ki bunyaad hai — yehi asal tafseer ul quran ka pegham bhi hai.
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Self-Care aur Spiritual Balance
Islam sikhata hai ke self-care sirf physical nahi, spiritual bhi hai.
Quraan padhna, dua, zikr aur ilm hasil karna — ye sab self-love ke asal forms hain.
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Amal ke Steps
Daily Muhasabah: Har din apne amal ka jaiza lo — Allah ke liye tha ya ego ke liye?
Positive Niyat: Har amal me sirf Allah ki raza talaash karo.
Ilm aur Amal: Deen seekho aur us par amal karo.
Zikr & Istighfar: Ye nafs ko paak karta hai aur ego ko kam karta hai.
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Nateeja – Self-Love ka Islami Raasta
Islam ek behtareen balance sikhata hai — self-love aur humility ke darmiyan.
Self-love tab ibadat ban jaati hai jab woh Allah ki raza ke liye ho.
Lekin jab woh ghamand aur nafs me badal jaaye, to woh roohani zawaal ki shakal ikhtiyar kar leti hai.
Islam kehta hai ke apni qeemat samjho, lekin apne Rabb ke samne jhuk kar raho.
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“Aur apne Rab ki rehmat se mayoos mat ho.
Beshak Allah sab gunahon ko bakhshne wala hai.”
(Surah Az-Zumar 39:53)
